I’m a proud feminist, so I’m the first one to call out sexism and double standards against women when I see them. However, there is a culture of sexism against men too, particularly in film, that often goes unnoticed, ignored and even mocked. Take the movie Horrible Bosses for example. Now, I love this movie. Sure, it’s not mentally stimulating or complex, but sometimes a girl just needs something ‘light and fluffy’ to laugh at. On the one hand, it is filled with hilarious moments that I laughed-out-loud at, but on the other, there is something so sexist about it that annoys and angers me and that’s why I find it difficult to criticise.
If you haven’t seen the movie, three friends Dale, Nick and Kurt all have “horrible bosses” whom they plan to kill. Nick’s is the typical ‘asshole’ boss, Kurt’s is a raging cokehead and Dale’s (played by Jennifer Aniston) is a sexual harasser. But Jennifer Aniston, aka “Julia” is never actually called out as a sexual harasser. In fact, even the movie art describes her as a ‘maneater’.
Throughout the movie, Julia propositions Dale for sexual favours, pretty much flashes him her breasts and does things like this:
Julia is NOT a maneater. She is a rapist, and this is sexual assault, plain and simple, but Horrible Bosses makes a mockery of the whole thing. There is no doubt in my mind that something like this wouldn’t even be contemplated as comedy if it were the other way around and Julia was the victim, because sexual harassment against women is NEVER OKAY. But it’s funny when it’s against a man, because men can’t get sexually harassed right? I mean, what kind of man wouldn’t want a woman like Julia to come onto them? They can’t be a man at all!
Dale: She stood there with her breasts, right in my face!
Kurt: Yeah. You know, yours doesn’t sound that bad.
Seriously Dale! I mean why wouldn’t you want Julia’s breasts in your face? In fact, Dale isn’t taken seriously until he says he has a fiance that he loves and would never cheat on, at which point Kurt and Nick suddenly have an epiphany that oh yeah, actually that’s not okay. So it’s sexual harassment ONLY if you’re in a relationship and don’t want to cheat? What kind of message is that sending to male victims of sexual harassment? That it doesn’t exist simply because you didn’t want it to happen? That you have to have a valid reason for it? That if you’re a male and single, you can’t be sexually harassed?
I imagine that the conversation between Julia and her female friend would be very different.
Julia: He just stood there with his penis, right in my face!
Wendy: Oh my God, that’s sexual harassment, you have to report him!
And this is where the double standard lies. Sexual harassment against men is a joke, but sexual harassment against women is a crime. Sure, women experience their fair share of criticism when it comes to sexual harassment, but it would never be the main storyline in a comedy. A triumphant drama about Julia overcoming her male chauvinist boss, and empowering women everywhere maybe; But a comedy? Never! Similarly, how many non-comedies can you think of about a man who experiences sexual harassment in the workplace? Or in any setting at all?
Every movie has a dumb character, the one that the audience and other characters in the movie laugh at, and in Horrible Bosses, it is Dale. This further diminishes Dale’s credibility and makes his whole character and storyline a mockery, something and someone to laugh at and find hilariously stupid. The movie really goes out of its way to make you detest Nick and Kurt’s boss, but Julia, like Dale is laughed at. In fact the way they solve the ‘Julia problem’ is for Kurt to sleep with her. The worst boss of them all, the sexual harasser, is the only one whom they DON’T plan to kill? Of course not, because a manipulative rapist maneater is not bad, in fact, she’s hilarious! Sexual harassment against men is not a crime, it’s hilarious! It’s all so hilarious!
Dale in the end does rid himself of Julia, but rather than calling her a manipulative, evil rapist, he calls her
It’s a good thing that sexual harassment against males is getting some air-time in popular culture, but making a mockery of it is just perpetuating the problem. Horrible Bosses is giving people permission to scoff, ridicule and doubt the credibility of sexual harassment against men. Sure, it’s a comedy. I hear people telling me to “take a joke” or “don’t take it so seriously!”, but that’s the whole point- sexual harassment is serious, in both men AND women. I love comedies, and I like this movie. I even laughed at some parts of the Dale-Julia catastrophe, but I think the creators picked the wrong issue to make a joke out of.